Tag: Kenn Blanchard

Top 12 Episodes of this Podcast

Top 12 Episodes of this Podcast

Top 12 

How Does It Feel To Be Right?

 

Lessons For Colion Noir

 

John Wick on Gun Rights

 

Armed Christian Perspectives

5 Things You Need to Know Before Shooting Naked

 

Why We Love History (and you should too!)

3D Gun Printing is BS

 

Hurricane Florence

 

 

Five Things You Need To Know About EDC

 

5 Things you should know about shotguns

 

5 Mistakes In Gun Rights That Make You Look Dumb

 

Keeping your Back Hole Out of Jail

 

Check out these podcast:  Black Man With A Gun Show ,  Speak Life church , and  Indian Motorcycle radio  The Books, Kenn has written.
Top 12 Episodes of this Podcast

Top 12 Episodes of this Podcast

Top 12 

How Does It Feel To Be Right?

 

Lessons For Colion Noir

 

John Wick on Gun Rights

 

Armed Christian Perspectives

5 Things You Need to Know Before Shooting Naked

 

Why We Love History (and you should too!)

3D Gun Printing is BS

 

Hurricane Florence

 

 

Five Things You Need To Know About EDC

 

5 Things you should know about shotguns

 

5 Mistakes In Gun Rights That Make You Look Dumb

 

Keeping your Back Hole Out of Jail

 

He Is Returning

He Is Returning

Some podcasters don’t take themselves serious, but when they do, they knock it out of the park.

 

I got the opportunity to speak on a podcast (hear below) recently and was asked some tough questions.  From my vantage point, anyway.  We talked about race, BLM, racism, police defunding, gun control and what we did last in guns.

It’s not you, it’s them.

You have been thinking, acting, and living like you have to be responsible for your life, family and future.  They think the government is here to protect them up until recently.  Now they want to defund the police.  They don’t know that gun control is racist.  You know our history.  You know that along with a firearm you need ammunition and training.  They are now surprised that they have to wait 3, 7 or ten days to pick up a pistol they purchased because of a state regulation they agreed to years ago.  You don’t give a rats ass about the color of a person skin.  You are so comfortable you used to make jokes about it with friends.  They are shocked you have a relationships with people of color.  They are shocked you supported a podcast called Black Man With A Gun for years, that they never heard of.  

If the recent burning, looting, and destruction of cities surprises you, don’t let it.  This is the reaction of people seeking to be heard.  This is what happens when people wake up.  This is what happens when we grieve the loss of life, freedom and the way things used to be.  All of us are in some stage of that grief.  This is how sausage is made.

Nobody new to food processing likes watching how sausage is being made.  It is ugly. Everyone watching the turmoil, strife and upheaval of protesters and looters doesn’t understand that these are byproducts of freedom. It is ugly.  It is revolution.  These are pleas for help and attention to social problems mixed with criminal activity. It is change.

 

To quote my cousin.

Black people haven’t had one decade to heal. We come out of slavery to lynchings , to Jim Crow , segregation, desegregation, civil rights denied, too war on drugs all the way up till now being killed by cops ( no healing period) 

 

What makes us different is not only our age, but our core values.   Those that  once served  in uniform and took an oath to defend the Constitution of the United States and to serve as an example to American society which did not transfer to the folks you see on RAGE TV.  Yes, the media is doing what it does.  It is showing you what you want to see to scare you.  We like to be scared.  Some of us, are writing articles about the Race War, and how we won’t kneel.  None of which is helping anyone else.  

We have been here before.  I didn’t think this would happen in my lifetime but but humanity is not as cogent, progressive or intelligent as it wants to claim.  Collectively we are still little kids in the playground picking sides by color, size and familiarity.  

You still with me?

I am bringing back the Black Man With A Gun Show Podcast and incorporating more common sense, more positive conversations, monologues and history.  I may even try to do a short mini series on video now that I am over my fear of the camera.  You’ll see the new stuff on my Youtube channel. 

I ended the show last December thinking it had ran its course.  I was wrong.  I did need a break though.

The podcast rocked and rolled for twelve years as the world accepted podcasting.  I did and lasted longer than most on what I had.  The people that liked me, really did.  The ones that listened to me try all sorts of things.  They watched me grow.  I thought I was done after watching a boat load of younger enthusiast take to instagram and YouTube.  They seemingly got sponsors, and all sorts of stuff I thought was not available.  I wasn’t black enough to some.  I had the “racist” John Wayne on my show leading the pledge of Allegiance.  I was probably a Republican.  I was an odd duck.  I had worked for all the socially unacceptable agencies, the police, the CIA, the NRA, the Law Enforcement Alliance of America, I was a black preacher (which is also a negative sometimes), I saluted the flag.  I got along with bikers, the NASCAR crowd, country musicians. I was dangerously close to being an Uncle Tom.  

With the exceptions that those closest vouched that I was the radical, the street smart, the militant, the “woke” guy in all those unacceptable agencies.  That I scared my peers back then, though they understand me now.  I was purposely put into diversity and Glass ceiling studies.  I was always put into working groups because of my stance on human rights, equality and justice.  When I became an entrepreneur in the gun industry, I was alone.  I became jealous of the clowns that were celebrated, paid and shared on social media.  I figured if that is what “the people” want then good on them.  That was then.

Which brings me finally to what is going on.  People are grieving and trying to work through it.  We are in the midst of trying to stay safe from viruses and angry people.  Mobs, riots and zealots are out here.  The ignorant, misinformed and conmen are using social media to their benefit.  I thought I’d come back and give my biased views on a few things under the guise of a Black Man With A Gun.  I started this off by asking friends to submit articles to the blog and and handful did.  They share their hearts.  And that is what will save our Republic.  Going to need financial help to get this puppy moving.  If you can, please contribute to the patreon.com/blackmanwithagun  or buy me a coffee links. 

None of us, is as strong as all of us.

I will be incorporating the Game Changers podcast into this as well.  Celebrating and acknowledging men doing the right thing in our community. And I may get around to talking about guns too. 

I’m back.  

 

Here is a conversation I had with the Concealed Taco Dudes Podcast.

Black Man With A Gun Show returning in July 2020.

 

-Kenn

Check out these podcast:  Black Man With A Gun Show ,  Speak Life church , and  Indian Motorcycle radio  The Books, Kenn has written.
Goal Setting with a Indian Motorcycle Podcast

Goal Setting with a Indian Motorcycle Podcast

What I Did On My Spring Vacation

The coronavirus pandemic is challenging enough.  I decided to make one of my goals to create a motorcycle podcast that in the process would help me get better at goal setting and give me a win. The show is about Indian Motorcycles and the community that loves them. The Indian Motorcycle has been an iconic American brand for more than a century, and it still resonates among older motorcyclists. That is my jam!

 

first episode

If you have never had good fortune at goal setting follow me on this and I’ll explain how I am working it. I am using what is called S.M.A.R.T.E.R. template for goal setting. There are hundreds of talking heads and motivational speakers that mention this. Look it up on YouTube after you read this and see if it makes more sense to you.

A  S.M.A.R.T. goal is one of those terms you have to know if your job requires you to write your achievements and accomplishments at the end of a reporting period. It’s good to know because without goals I don’t finish projects. I lose focus. This is my “why.” We all know about those pesky New Years Resolutions. If you have goals here is what I am using to succeed with the podcast.

S.M.A.R.T.E.R

  1. Specific
  2. Measurable
  3. Actionable
  4. Relatable
  5. Time
  6. Evaluate
  7. Reward

 

The main thing about making a good goal for yourself is that it has to be something that makes you want to get out of bed in the morning. It has to inspire you. It has to motivate you. Right now, I don’t own an Indian Motorcycle. I have test ridden a couple and talked to several salesman. I learned for myself that they are at the top of the food chain. Its a high quality American made motorcycle that rivals Harley Davidson with a cult like following. I like talking about it. I like the community that has them. If I do this well, I could end up being sponsored by the company or maybe get invited to the factory for a tour, a test ride or maybe even get a free bike. [fat chance there, but I keep hope alive]. Either way these goals inspire me.

Specifics

And now the specifics. This is about Indian Motorcycles and not every other bike. This is using the power of niche marketing. I found a Facebook community that let me in with over 9000 and growing members. A good goal has to be specific. I know why I failed. It “pod-faded” when I tried to include all motorcycles, trikes, quads and whatever four years ago. I have to overcome the “curse of familiarity.” I lost momentum the last time.

Measureable

To make this podcast successful it has to measurable. It has nothing to do with the microphone, the album art, the hosting service although I have twelve years experience producing podcast and know the best practices. Publishing a show online gives me metrics. Talking to the guys that ride, give me feedback, input and a sense of where I need to go. I am constantly measuring. When I entered the Facebook group, I decided if I could get could get 3 percent of the folks in it to download the show I would keep going. What is 3% of 8900?

Actionable

To make this podcast good I need action steps. I have to know my audience. I have to do this to get where I want to go. If I have to “Start Ugly,” I will and did. I wasn’t and still not sure the company isn’t going to hammer me from using their name. I am prepared to change it if I have to though. I had to overcome my fear of failure, the unknown and over analysis. I decided to invest in myself. To create a really good podcast it’s gonna cost me about 100 bucks a month and that’s to keep up with social media for graphics, for hosting, software upgrades and a host of new things that pop up to help me promote the show. It was going to be risky, yes.

Relateable

At this stage in my life, and my experience in motorcycling, podcasting and marketing, I believe I can make this work.  I identify with my audience.  I know motorcyclist.  I know podcasting.  Over the years, jobs and positions that motorcycle enthusiast (bikers) are in have been my largest friends base.  I have been a protector all of my life.  I am known internationally as the Black Man With a Gun.  I had a website with that URL since 2000 and published my first book with that title that year.  I know is how to push through.  I know how to keep my internal motivation and focus when the external elements beat you down.  What I have is a good grasp on is the mental preparation and mindset needed to fight one more round. 

I am in this target market.  This niche is my community.  It is what Seth Godin wrote about in Tribes.  I’m looking for the tribe to support my show.  My tribe will become super fans that consume all of my content as soon as I put it out and will “quickly” tell me if there is a type-o, glitch or shortcoming in my content so I can fix it.  Unlike those that just like to find fault, these fans are easy on my ego, and seek to make me better.  It is like having your brother and sister review your blog or podcast.  That is the kind of “love” you get when you identify your niche.  One of the benefits of identifying your niche is that you can grow this garden of super fans that help you succeed. 

“You don’t win with X’s and O’s. What you win with is people.”
– Joe Gibbs 

Here are three things a niche podcast can do.  (I am adding this for me to remember later.)

  1. Niche Podcasting allows you to solve certain problems for specific people. 
  2. Niche Podcasting makes it easier to define your target audience so that you can know where to find them. 
  3. Niche Podcast allows for you to tap into a more loyal and highly engaged audience.  

 

Timely

A good goal has a timeline. I was going to create a weekly show. I would know after 1 month, if “the juice was worth the squeeze.” I can read the numbers of downloaded episodes and track my weekly statistics.

Evaluate

These elements help me Evaluate how I am doing. Feedback is crucial in goal setting. I have learned you have to ask a lot of questions to get just a few answers. Most people don’t respond unless it is a hot button for them. Hot button issues and thoughts also are key things to think about when making content for the show. I look for both evergreen and hot button topics. When I remember that is.

Reward

The reward portion of this goal setting endeavor is both in the process and the product. I am asking businesses to consider sponsoring the show that doesn’t even have 1000 subscribers yet because of the potential. The “big ask” is also a big goal. It prepares me to ask the subscriber to fund the podcast. When I get enough subscribers to cover the $100 a month I am putting into making the show, its a milestone. I like the dopamine feeling of seeing someone that just donated $5 through https://www.buymeacoffee.com/motorcycles .

All success in life is basically task completion. When I finish and episode, I feel better. When I get feedback, I feel better. When I get positive feedback, a share and someone donates, it motivates me to go on a little further.

The lockdown has kept many of us home but my spirit is free to create, engage, and make things happen. I’m learning about this incredible product and I don’t even own one yet. I am become a brand ambassador without the pay. There’s a 2005 Harley Davidson Electra Glide Standard in the garage that I was saving for my son. It may be a trade in. My goals are to have a successful podcast with 1000 raving fans, in a community I like to be in, among people that get my jokes, like my voice and the content I am putting down. I have a chance to work with a company that is doing great things. I’m one of those guys that would own a biker bar and blues club if I had the money. This is the next best thing for me.

“Losers focus on what they are going through while champions focus on what they are going to.”

Check out these podcast:  Black Man With A Gun Show ,  Speak Life church , and  Indian Motorcycle radio  The Books, Kenn has written.
Protecting Your Church Online

Protecting Your Church Online

Using Zoom, YouTube and Facebook

Early adopters and tech savvy pastors I know have allowed or started to use tech like Zoom, Youtube and Facebook Live,  to reach their congregations recently.  I applaud that.  Some are fighting it with the tenacity of a Luddite.  Our elders are also having a tougher time deciding if they will finally join that Space Book or not.  
For those in the ministry, we don’t have a choice if we are true to our Call.  We are to serve,  to preach, reach and teach the Gospel of Jesus Christ.  We are charged to “feed My sheep.”  The method is not in the Book.  
The internet is a beautiful thing. It is bigger than America Online.  With the entire web, it’s possible to access almost any information, communicate with anyone else in the world, and do exactly what we are called to do globally.  It is also full of darkness, dangers and predators. 

Online Security

People use the same platforms to steal personal information, sell and send us things contrary to God.  Using tricks that prey on our psychology they can socially engineer our responses through “phishing, 
Phishing is when the anonymous attacker attempts to trick you into giving them your credentials or access to your system. Phishers attempt to play on your emotions, often including disturbing or enticing information in their emails in an attempt to provoke you to act. They may try to create a false sense of urgency by saying “your account will be deleted” or that “you are over your email storage space.” They often urge you to act immediately to “update” or “verify” your account information. 
Often, the goal of a phishing attack is to get you to provide your login credentials or other sensitive information like your social security number or financial institution information. This information could then be used to gain access to your private accounts or to steal your identity. You should be suspicious of any email that asks you to provide personal information or that directs you to a webpage that ask for this information.
Another goal of phishing is to trick you into downloading malicious code onto your computer. This can occur when you click a link or open an attachment. The malicious code can then do any number of very bad things to you, your computer and your contacts. 

Zoom 

Zoom has sharply risen in popularity since the spread of coronavirus ended group gatherings forced many to work from home.
I am hoping to issue a warning to the Church that there are predators in this space too.  Taylor Lorenz of the the New York Times  wrote and article about “zoom raiders” that have begun infiltrating meetings with malicious intent. The New York Times this month reported multiple instances of online abuse, ranging from unwanted pornographic images to instances of verbal harassment.
As Zoom’s user base has grown in recent weeks, reports of “Zoombombing,” or “Zoom raiding,” have spread across the internet.
Public school classes, Alcoholics Anonymous meetings, yoga sessions and other virtual gatherings have been derailed by participants. Some of the these Zoombombers have been students, frustrated by online schooling and eager to escape the virtual classroom by any means. Others have weaponized the platform’s security flaws to harass specific populations using racial slurs, sexist remarks and pornography.
It’s nearly impossible to prevent these attacks, especially when an event is public by design but I can help the administrators secure it with some tips if you contact me.  I will be posting a list of recommendations later. 
Rev. Kenn Blanchard 
Check out these podcast:  Black Man With A Gun Show ,  Speak Life church , and  Indian Motorcycle radio  The Books, Kenn has written.
Solutions For Good Sleep With Lt. Col. Dave Grossman

Solutions For Good Sleep With Lt. Col. Dave Grossman



 Wisdom from Lt. Col. Dave Grossman.


One of the things we don’t do is listen more to the wisemen in our lives.  There are grandparents, and uncles that have accumulated a wealth of knowledge over their lifetimes.  

Listen to this sage speak.   My guest coming soon is retired U.S. Army Lt. Col David Grossman.  

You can hear it  

click here to listen



 
Podcasting is an excellent way to capture the wisdom of our elders.  It’s not easy to listen sometimes because not everything they say is for everybody. And honestly, not everything they say is gold.  But on this weeks episode I have a guest that is golden.  We spoke for awhile and when he got comfortable he dropped some nuggets I want to share with you.  

I didn’t know him personally before our interview.  I have heard of him for decades.  On this episode he will be sharing the importance of sleep and how it affects us, soldiers and folks contemplating suicide.  Who would have known the key to success was sleep?  

He is going to talk about using caffeine effectively, how to sleep better, about church security, the Second Amendment, gun rights, the role and title of a Sheepdog, about self discipline and resilience.  This grandfather is going to give some parenting 101 advice.  And he is even going to talk about faith.  He ties it all together.

You are going to thank me for this episode. 


Dave has five patents to his name, has published four novels, two children’s’ books, and six non-fiction books to include his “perennial bestseller” On Killing  (with over half a million copies sold).Since his retirement from the US Army in 1998, he has been on the road almost 300 days a year, for over 19 years, as one of our nation’s leading trainers for military, law enforcement, mental health providers, and school safety organizations.

He is a US Army Ranger, a paratrooper, and a former West Point Psychology Professor.  He has a Black Belt in Hojutsu, the martial art of the firearm, and has been inducted into the USA Martial Arts Hall of Fame.  

Dave also mentions that getting a Fitbit to monitor your sleep and health is a good thing.  I put a link below for you along with his first book.  He has another coming out soon.  When he and it is available, I’ll have him back on.  

This guy is great.  He is one of a kind.   He was a great guest for the Game Changers Podcast.  Hope you enjoy it as much as I did.  



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Check out these podcast:  Black Man With A Gun Show ,  Speak Life church , and  Indian Motorcycle radio  The Books, Kenn has written.
Guns and the Pandemic With Colion Noir

Guns and the Pandemic With Colion Noir

The Pandemic has people back in the gun stores buying ammo, and more guns. For me, it has allowed me to reconnect with good people, and family. I hope to get you on the show soon. My guest this week is a good friend, known in the world as Mr. Colion Noir, gun rights activist and Youtuber. It’s a light conversation but Colion is going to dive into the new interest in gun ownership during this age of COVID-19. We videotaped it below as well.

The podcast is a little different as I share some thoughts on the dangers of comparing yourself to others. And I give some tips on Operational Security.

PODCAST      

I’ll be sharing some wisdom on comparison, jealousy and envy. Keep it in check.

“Comparison is the thief of joy.” – Theodore Roosevelt

Operational Security. Nobody needs to know what you have, where it is and all of that. Dial it back. We were right. We are prepared.

This isn’t the end of it though.

And subscribe to show, the YouTube channel and the blog.

Check out this episode!

Check out these podcast:  Black Man With A Gun Show ,  Speak Life church , and  Indian Motorcycle radio  The Books, Kenn has written.
Small Talk For Success

Small Talk For Success

Small Talk For Success

In this 24 minute podcast episode you’ll hear how to communicate better with your spouse. I got a chance to ask a single woman what is lacking today with relationships. This show will help you start small talk. There are tips for speaking in small groups. How to communicate for intimacy. How to start a conversation with a stranger. It could be the push you need to do better at work. The key words here are open ended questions and active listening. Learn these for the win. Subscribe to this podcast.

Why is Communication so hard? 

Asked of a single woman I know. The topic prompted me to share this with you so you can do better.

Two Game Changing Points:

1. An open-ended question is a question that cannot be answered with a “yes” or “no” response, or with a static response.
2. Active listening.
There are three levels of safe topics to talk about.

More tips:

* Be attentive and give eye contact.
* Make active and engaged expressions.
* Repeat back what you’ve heard, and follow up with questions.
* If you notice something you want to say, don’t say it. Challenge it and go back to listening.
* For bonus points, wait an hour to bring up that thing you didn’t say earlier.

Communicate for intimacy.

Good Luck. New Facebook page @kbgamechangers
If you like the show, please share it with one person you think might subscribe.

Thanks man. Kenn

Check out these podcast:  Black Man With A Gun Show ,  Speak Life church , and  Indian Motorcycle radio  The Books, Kenn has written.
Corona virus Update

Corona virus Update

If you have been shopping lately you may have seen the increase of hysteria about the virus.  People are buying unnecessary and excess stuff.  If you have bought teargas masks, 37 gallons of bottled water, or a years supply of surgical face masks that is extreme.

According to the CDC, most of the people in the United States have little immediate risk of exposure to the Coronavirus aka COVID-19. This is a new disease and they are still learning how it spreads, the severity of illness it causes, and to what extent it may spread in the United States.

Believe it or not, people like you and I are still catching colds, have allergies and even catching the flu. Hold on there cowboy!  Everybody that sneezes isn’t about to die.

Don’t be a bigot.

People—including those of Asian descent who have not recently been in an area of ongoing spread of COVID-19 or been in contact with a person who is a confirmed or suspected case of COVID-19 are NOT A GREATER RISK of acquiring and spreading COVID-19 than other Americans.  Viruses cannot target people from specific populations, ethnicities, or racial backgrounds.

People who have returned from an area with ongoing spread of COVID-19 more than 14 days ago and do not have symptoms are not infected with the virus and contact with them will NOT give you the virus.

CDC recommends that travelers avoid all nonessential travel to China. This does not include Hong Kong, Macau, or the island of Taiwan.

Here are the hot spots around the world.

  • China (Level 3 Travel Health Notice)
  • Iran (Level 3 Travel Health Notice)
  • Italy (Level 3 Travel Health Notice)
  • Japan (Level 2 Travel Health Notice)
  • South Korea (Level 3 Travel Health Notice)

Level 3 is to avoid unnecessary travel to this area.
Level 2 Practice enhanced precautions to this area.
Level 1 practice regular precautions to this area

Don’t be an idiot.

Older adults and people with chronic medical conditions may be at increased risk for severe disease.  This is one of the reasons the elderly in Washington State were susceptible.
All of us should avoid contact with sick people that have traveled and clean their hands often by washing with soap and water for at least 20 seconds or using an alcohol-based hand sanitizer with 60%–95% alcohol. Soap and water still work.  Don’t bleach your hands.

Travelers should stay home and monitor their health during travel and for 14 days after returning to the United States. These travelers who feel sick with fever or cough or difficulty breathing should seek medical advice. Call ahead before you go to a doctor’s office or emergency room.

Don’t be nasty.

Cover your cough or sneeze with a tissue, then throw the tissue in the trash.
Clean and disinfect frequently touched objects and surfaces using a regular household cleaning spray or wipe.

The CDC does not recommend that people who are well wear a face

mask to protect themselves from respiratory diseases, including COVID-19.

Face masks should be used by people who show symptoms of COVID-19 to help prevent the spread of the disease to  others. The use of face masks is also crucial for health workers and people who are taking care of someone in close settings (at home or in a health care facility).

Wash your hands often with soap and water for at least 20 seconds, especially after going to the bathroom; before eating; and after blowing your nose, coughing, or sneezing.
If soap and water are not readily available, use an alcohol-based hand sanitizer with at least 60% alcohol. Always wash hands with soap and water if hands are visibly dirty.

At the time of this post, there is currently no vaccine to prevent coronavirus disease (COVID-19).

The best way to prevent illness is to avoid being exposed to this virus and take care of your hygiene. I’ll keep you informed.

Check out these podcast:  Black Man With A Gun Show ,  Speak Life church , and  Indian Motorcycle radio  The Books, Kenn has written.
Black Man With A Gun

Black Man With A Gun

The end of African American history observance month 2020 is this week.
I’ve always been a fan of history. I don’t like what happened most of time. I don’t romanticize about it. I don’t even wish I was born earlier. I had enough drama in my own lifetime.
 I’ve even made some history.

My friends from the Virginia Citizens Defense League (VCDL) asked me to do a little video to remind my American family of how far we’ve come and how far we have to still go.

 Freedom to live as our Republic was intended is always under attack.

Most people don’t know I’ve been defending the right to keep and bear arms publicly since 1991. I am the founder of the first African American National Gun Club, the Tenth Cavalry. We had chapters in DC, Baltimore, NJ, Chicago and Georgia. I’ve helped launch several  untraditional gun groups.

I was one of the champions for concealed carry reform nationally.  I lobbied the US Congress and in the state legislatures of Virginia, Texas, South Carolina, Michigan, Maryland, and Wisconsin. I have been producing podcasts since 2007.  The Black Man With A Gun Show podcast  (2007- 2019) was one of the first pro-gun podcasts. I have voiced commercials for TV and traditional radio against racist gun laws before social media. I have been featured in four documentaries. I has authored several books.  I’ve recently just written a couple of pieces for the USCCA.

But in December 2019 I decided to let the next generation have at it.

 Well until requested to speak on this video.
 

I may be the best that ever did it and got away with it. 

 I’m still around if you need me though. Just send up the Black signal!

Check out these podcast:  Black Man With A Gun Show ,  Speak Life church , and  Indian Motorcycle radio  The Books, Kenn has written.

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