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Dear White Man

Dear White Man

 

Dear White Man,

I’m writing to you today because of all that’s going on in the nation. I thought you might need to hear a few words of encouragement from your friend and your brother from another mother. You and I have been pretty close since 2007, when I started my podcast in the basement of my house. You’ve invited me to your home. We’ve broken bread together. We’ve laughed, hugged, even. We’ve smoked cigars. We’ve shared in this Second Amendment fight. We’ve been to speeches. I’ve been a speaker at different events with you. You’ve heard my sermons in church. You’ve introduced me to your family, to your kids. We’ve come through a lot of stuff in these last twenty years or so. Some of us have been together even longer than that. We met, maybe, at the Second Amendment Foundation’s annual meeting, or the National Rifle Association’s meeting across the country, or occasionally you caught me at SHOT Show. We laughed and had some good times.

Well, my white brother, the time’s they are a’changin’. I see your frustration. I hear your anger. I read what you write in your posts. I see the memes you make. Or, I’ve noticed your absence online or in comments. Well, you know me. I haven’t changed. I never run from a fight. I’m talking more about love. Like the song that says nobody’s interested in learning it, but the teacher, it seems.

We got segregation, determination, demonstrations, integration, aggravation, humiliation, and no obligation to our nation. It’s a ball of confusion right now. That’s what the world is today. Yeah.
You got young folks walking around with their heads in the sky and cities aflame in the summertime. And though, the beat goes on. I think yesterday was the eve of destruction. We’re still looking for tax deductions and city inspectors, and Bill the collector, evolution, revolution, gun control, and the sound of soul. They’re still shooting rockets to the moon, but kids are still growing up too soon. It’s a Ball of Confusion, baby.

And I feel you. I understand where you’re coming from.

So, my white brother, I’m just here to tell you that I understand. I’m just giving you a shoutout that I don’t blame you for squat. I don’t. I know who you are. You’ve been the same with me since the beginning. Back when I was the lone brother out here. I was never totally alone, but I was pretty much the singleton. I remember how you treated me and my family, and then my friends, and then my club, and then as I grew my own advocacy and activism, and I grew, and you kept asking me, “How can I get more people of color into my group? How can I get more folks like you in my range?” And we just continued to push on. I know your heart. I know you’re not a racist. I know where you’re coming from, and I ain’t afraid to tell it, truth be told. I’ll still stand with you, even though right now some of you got your war face on. Yeah, you do. Let me tell you about anger.

There are three types of anger that the psychologists can recognize pretty easily. The first is the hasty and sudden anger, and it’s all connected to self-preservation. You think everybody’s after you, so you’re striking out at everybody else. I’m just here to tell you that it’s not me. Remember, we’ve been together a long time. I know who you are, really. The second type is the settled and deliberate anger — a reactionary thing. It’s the deliberate harm or unfair treatment of others. It’s an episodic type of anger. I know that’s not you. And, the third is a dispositional anger. It’s related more to a character trait. It means something’s wrong with you. You’re irritable, sullen. There’s some stuff wrong. Anger can potential mobilize psychological resources and boost the determination toward correction of wrong behaviors, like the promotion of social justice and the communication of negative sentiment and redress of grievances. It can also facilitate patience. In contrast, anger can be destructive when it does not find its appropriate outlet in expression.

Some of you guys are angry white men. And, you’re having a hard time navigating the situation. What happens? The angry person loses their objectivity, your empathy — which you had so much of before — your prudence or your thoughtfulness that you had, that you showed me. And sometimes you can get so pissed off you harm yourself. To all my angry white brothers out there, step back, and take a breath. One of the things I know about anger is that it can get you out of sorts. It can trigger some other stuff. It can make you rely more on stereotypes, and pay less attention to details and more attention to the superficial. That’s what I’m seeing in the memes. Anger is like any other negative emotion, like sadness or fear. Anger can mess up your analytical thinking. One of the things I liked about you before was you’re smart. Now, you’re sayin’ stupid stuff. If it’s not you, it’s the guy next to you. I know it’s tight, but it’s right. Why are you angry?

Because, hey, there’s fear in the air. There’s tension everywhere. Unemployment’s rising fast, and the band played on. Population’s out of hand, suicide, too many bills, hippies movin’ to the hills, people all over the world are shouting, “End the war!” And, the band played on.

Don’t you hear me talking to you? Do you know what one of the greatest motivators in the world is? Loss. Nobody likes to lose anything. So, what’s wrong with America right now? Folks have lost what they used to have — lack of leadership, the polarization of our nation, irresponsibility, the adoption of extremist philosophies, domestic terrorism, erosions of the right to be politically correct. Convenient truths, the rewriting of history for personal gain, the sense of entitlement, the fact that we kicked God out of almost everything we do. The end of “live and let live.” That whole tolerance thing, that politicians are just in it for the money, plain old complacency — what Martin Luther King called “indifference.” Nihilism. That’s a big word. Lack of good jobs. Fidelity….where did she go? Worship of the state, and a plain old loss of respect for other people?

I know you know this, I’m just here to remind you that I feel your pain, that I understand what you’re mad about. I’m just here to tell you that I know who you are. I still like you. Back in 1999, I created a website called Black Man with a Gun . I thought I’d be ostracized and kicked out by the whole world except for a few other radically black people like me. Yeah. I was woke before folks was born. But, you who was awoke before I was? You were. Some of you actually told me about the Deacons of Defense and Justice. Some of you told me about Ossian Sweet. Some of you told me about my own history. I had to go learn about it, and research it and find out about all my relatives, and how I was connected to it. My whole life, I’d been around it, but I missed it. You helped me realize that nobody knows everything, and all of us make mistakes. So, I took my militant butt to the wood shed, and learned some history. And, when I learned, I was on fire for this thing, and decided I was going to teach my world what I learned. I was going to share my knowledge with as many people as I could. And, you still supported me. You didn’t even see me. You didn’t see me get jumped in the church. You didn’t see me get beat down on the street corner. You didn’t hear about what happened after we testified in court in Baltimore or Annapolis — how the Mothers Against Guns ganged up on me, and how, through the grace of God, I was able to let them see the truth, the real truth. You supported me during evangelism for the right to keep and bear arms for almost twenty years. I was doing this crap before we had Google and Instagram and Facebook, but I’m actually kind of tired right now — tired of defending, tired of arguing the same old argument, but luckily, there’s quite a few younger people, younger brothers and sisters that are doing it! And I got nothing but praise for them, except for when they think they’ve created something that’s new and original. Then, they forget where they’ve come from.

So, my angry white brother, failure isn’t final. You know it’s interesting that failing and falling both begin with the same letter. Now, if you’ve gotten mad when you fell, you probably wouldn’t try to stand up anymore. But, if you looked at the fall and the sequence as just something that is — is it what it is — it becomes what you make of it. And, you looked at it as opportunity to learn, which, you did, as a baby, ok? Every baby does. And, what do we do? We get right back up, regardless of failing, and try it again, and you keep doing it until that one day, when you’re walking. Well, right now, we’re falling a lot. We got folks who thing they know stuff they don’t. We got people who are in charge who shouldn’t be, but the brain does not learn from success. The brain learns from the intense scrutiny after the failure to chunk whatever you’re trying to do into it with four or five different parts, and try to figure out the sequence that does work right. And, then it’s going to fire all those circles again. We learn very little from success. So, right now, we’re failing a lot. It looks like Hell warmed over, but be patient. We’ve been here before. The only bad part is people don’t remember the late 60’s, the early 70’s which would soon come — leaders and carpetbaggers, and all of that. We’ve gone through this before.

Folks were taking drugs back in the 60’s trying to take the pain out of living. Now, they just go ahead and kill themselves outright. We need to take more care of our neighbors. We need to take more care of ourselves. We need to watch what we put into our heads — junk in, junk out. We need to realize that all of this stuff is temporary. No storm lasts forever. And, it’s okay to be angry. You can be an angry, white man. Just don’t be angry at me. I didn’t cause none of this trouble! Some of it is good trouble. Some of it’s B.S. Right now that Serenity Prayer is pretty tight, but its right. Where it says,

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

That’s how we’re going to get out of this funk, white man! white woman! And for those who are not white who listen to your friend and brother from another mother, I just gave you somebody’s else side for you to think about before you judge them. We all live in a pluralistic society. I really didn’t even know what that was until recently, but I want you to look that up.

We all are born and we grow with different natures which, in return, leads us to have different likes and dislikes, inclinations and disinclinations, temptations and abilities to perform and act. I’m asking you today — white or black, brown, yellow, pink, or multi-colored, to try to understand somebody else. Avoid blaming people. You must understand that people don’t care about you. This isn’t because people are mean or hurtful, it’s just because they’re always focused on themselves. You don’t figure in as their priority. In their process, most of their thoughts are self-directed.

Everybody’s thinking, “My goals. My problems. My feelings.” Yeah. All of us are like that. Mostly, we are all self-centered, but you have to be morally accountable for your actions in this day-to-day life. Keep on understanding that people who appear to be mean or hurtful do not usually do it intentionally, unless they’re sociopathic. It should not deviate you from your appropriate conduct. To say everyone is completely selfish is a gross exaggeration that ignores all the kinds of acts of kindness, sacrifice and love that make this damn world work. Believe it or not, everyone is emotional, and that’s not an exaggeration. We look for reliability in the process of sharing where their strong feelings or points of view are paid due attention, but it’s important to find common ground when you try to interact with people. Understanding is everything. Communication is the secret sauce of the world. Believe it or not, people have short memories. You think they remember your birthday or event? Nah. Most people don’t recollect instances that don’t have anything to do with them. It’s just how we are. They do remember, most likely, similarities or approaches to things that are like theirs. Thats’ how I can say what I’m saying right now, because I’ve been around like fifty-eight years.

Almost forty of those years have been involved in this Second Amendment thing, in some way or another. Almost. Learn to have passion to listen to others. When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen, but when you’re a good listener, you can develop a better rapport with other people. Now, why am I telling you this? I know you’re grown. You’re old enough to do what the Hell you want, I know. But, who else is going to tell you that you might have a chance to listen? I know you know it — I’m just here to remind you. Develop that animal instinct. You know, it’s really interesting to learn from animals sometimes. They create new life with a purpose, and learn to survive. We have to keep on understanding at each level of a relationship to survive and procreate. You don’t have to read too much into the process of dealing with others to survive and procreate. Sometimes, we think too much. Just do the right thing. Spike Lee was right on that one. Understanding people who don’t look like you is a process of growing. It involves traveling down a path of your lives and making decisions. There will be mistakes, which everyone makes. The importance lies in learning from them to grow stronger. It also guides you to be true to you.

I’m not apologizing for anything except my own behavior. I wrote this letter because we have a problem. We’re more divided than ever, and some folks like it. You know, there’s power in segregation, hate, bigotry, and fear. Those who spread it, share it, joke about it, help it. Everybody who’s gone through something, it has changed them in a way they should never go back to the person they once were. Everybody.

So, walk a mile in someone else’s shoes, and see what they see, hear what they hear, feel what they feel. Then, maybe you’ll understand — me, too! — why I do what I do. You know my name, but not my story. You’ve heard what I’ve done, but not what I’ve been through. The most difficult thing in this life is to know yourself. We’re all going through something right now. It’s an opportunity to do better, to mend a fence, build a bridge, start over if you messed up. Having good morals is still a good thing. Having some core values is still a good thing. Having some wisdom is still a good thing. Thinking before you speak is still a good thing. Check your anger. Check your resources. Check how you’re rollin’. Are you acting like someone else? Or are you acting like you? We can all get this thing back on track if we first take care of our own selves. And, that’s it for this. I’m going to call it quits right there.

You know, at the end of every show, I always say, “just in case nobody has told you this today: I love you.” Well, if you’re wondering how I can love you, and I don’t even know you, check this: Some people hate me, and they don’t know me either. I choose to love.

Shalom baby,

Kenn


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Check out these podcast:  Black Man With A Gun Show ,  Speak Life church , and  Indian Motorcycle radio  The Books, Kenn has written.
Life is Easier When You Can Laugh

Life is Easier When You Can Laugh

John Hickok is doing standup and is pretty good.   He is a talented, tall brother.  This was recorded at Laffs Comedy Cafe in Tucson Arizona on 1/24/2020. John Hickok is the co-creator and co-host of world famous award winning YouTube channel hickok45 and I just found out is a nationally touring stand up comedian. He was also featured on an episode of NRA All Access previously airing on the Outdoor Channel. His comedy influences are The Simpsons , Bill Hicks , Dave Chappelle , George Carlin , and Mitch Hedberg.

Listen to the real reason he carries a gun. NSFW. (its comedy)


To stay up to date on future shows as well as business contact follow on Instagram @john_hickok45 as well as @johnhickokpresentsstandup.

 

WAY TO GO John!

Check out these podcast:  Black Man With A Gun Show ,  Speak Life church , and  Indian Motorcycle radio  The Books, Kenn has written.
These Days

These Days

Sometime last week, I was in my usual (these days, anyway) 3:00AM position and state of mind: buried underneath my covers in darkness snuggling with my best friend, (these days) Kindle. My second best friend (these days) is vodka, but more on that, perhaps, another time. The Kindle was loaned to me by my friend, Lindsey, who knew that I, like many others, was stuck home in quarantine and trying to not lose my ever-loving mind. Reading helps. The Kindle she loaned me was already loaded with book titles – I mean, like hundreds – so, I was going to be good for awhile.

One of my favorite things to do is judge a book by its cover. I know, I know. I can’t help it. If the cover has boats, trees, or an animal on it, or is drenched in natural, preferably nautical colors, I’m in! I don’t even need to know the storyline. I’m in. Well, Kindle doesn’t offer that, so I’ve actually learned that I love reading a book by going in completely blind – no preconceived notions, no warnings. It turns out that one thing I’ve believed my whole life has turned out to be untrue: I don’t hate mysteries and thrillers. Who knew? Who also knew that through this process I would find out that Jessica Simpson is one of my favorite people on Earth? Stay with me, now. Actually, let me back up for a minute.

I’ve been out of work for almost three months. I work in one of those big box retail stores – one that’s been frequented heavily these days, and with my history of severe asthma, my doctor recommended a leave of absence to stay away from the general public for awhile. Not knowing how long “for awhile” is going to go on, I’ve been working on trying to get my small home business off the ground, and it’s been stressful. I never thought myself to be a super social person, but it turns out, I need people around me. I was born under the sign of Cancer, and I guess that profile fits me because while I like people, I want to keep them at an emotionally safe distance. This physically safe distance, though, has caused a little bit of a panic that started as just a slow simmer inside of me, but has become too close to the boiling point for comfort. So what that I can’t spend a spa day relaxing alone but with the company of nearby people? So what that we can’t go to a MLB game? So what that the bars and nightclubs are closed? Right? So, what? So, we have become more and more isolated from each other, which has only enhanced the ridiculous political climate that surrounds us right now. So, we need the distraction of entertainment. So, we need to have the common grounds that have been taken from us. That’s so what. I do digress, but I just wanted to make the point, that I, like millions of people around the world, am feeling a little low.

Back to Miss Simpson. I’ve never been a Jessica Simpson fan, but nor have I ever been a hater. I actually liked her in Dukes of Hazzard, and, back in the day, enjoyed an episode or two of Newlyweds. The girl is funny. But, never being into pop, I’m not familiar with her music. That night last week, as I attempted to disappear (literally, if only I could) into my Kindle library where her newly released memoir, Open Book waited patiently for me, I met Jessica. I’m going to have to fight the desire here to make this a raving review for the book. It honestly was exceptional, but I’m hoping to drive a different point home. I found a kinship with Jessica through the story of her life. There were many similarities to our upbringings. We were both firstborn daughters, born in July, with younger sisters born the same amount of years later. We both were raised Baptist, and still to this day carry those traditions in our hearts, but more importantly, we both are passionate in our love for the Lord. We’ve both found ourselves, throughout our lives, struggling to find our places in the world – in a world that is so temporary and fleeting and fickle. Like me, she is a writer. So much of her music was born from entries in journals she kept throughout her life. I used to be a journal keeper. I stopped ten years ago, for reasons that are only now obvious to me, but I had always found it helpful, therapeutic. As I watched her beautiful and painful story unfold, it was clear to me the impact her writing had on actually saving her life. I’ve been feeling like I’m drowning recently. No, actually, I take that back. I’ve been feeling like I’m sinking in the muck and mire at the bottom of the sea – beyond drowning. Jessica struck a chord in me. It was as if she was saying, directly to me, “Girl. Pick up that pen, and write it down.” So, I did. Whether it was the actual words I was writing, or the act alone of writing, or if it was something else altogether, I really don’t know, but something began to happen. It was tiny, but I could feel it. The following morning, I was texting with a friend who was concerned about me. He advised me to write these words you are reading right now. “It might help someone else who’s feeling the same way,” he said. “Do it for me.”  

I’m not feeling 100% better today, but I’d honestly say 45%! And that’s something, right? My feelings of purposelessness and despair are only nagging thoughts in the background now instead of being everything to me. What is the answer, then? I think it’s that we have to almost force ourselves to do those things that we know can help us dig out. Oftentimes, I know, we have lost the desire to even free ourselves, but I made myself write when I really didn’t feel like it. What is it, for you, that can help break you out of your prison? Have you seen the video of the speech, “Make Your Bed” by Admiral William McRaven? It’s a beautiful and eloquent commencement address that boils down to a simple task: Make your bed. It sounds like an oversimplification, but truly, things are so much more simple than we want to believe.

You should watch the video of his speech here:

 

The other thing I hope you take away from this is the importance of people. I’ve always been a loner, so it’s hard for me to accept my need for others, but we all have that need. Look at the line of people it took to get me just 45% better. Lindsey loaned me the Kindle, and has since told me to keep it as a gift! Thank you, Lindsey! That led me to Jessica’s book – thank you, Jessica! My Brother from another mother urged me to write this story – thank you, Kenn! This little story may have made even one of you feel a tad bit better today, and that thought alone makes my heart sing. And just like that, I’m at about 60% – thank you, Lord.

Top 12 Episodes of this Podcast

Top 12 Episodes of this Podcast

Top 12 

How Does It Feel To Be Right?

 

Lessons For Colion Noir

 

John Wick on Gun Rights

 

Armed Christian Perspectives

5 Things You Need to Know Before Shooting Naked

 

Why We Love History (and you should too!)

3D Gun Printing is BS

 

Hurricane Florence

 

 

Five Things You Need To Know About EDC

 

5 Things you should know about shotguns

 

5 Mistakes In Gun Rights That Make You Look Dumb

 

Keeping your Back Hole Out of Jail

 

Check out these podcast:  Black Man With A Gun Show ,  Speak Life church , and  Indian Motorcycle radio  The Books, Kenn has written.
He Is Returning

He Is Returning

Some podcasters don’t take themselves serious, but when they do, they knock it out of the park.

 

I got the opportunity to speak on a podcast (hear below) recently and was asked some tough questions.  From my vantage point, anyway.  We talked about race, BLM, racism, police defunding, gun control and what we did last in guns.

It’s not you, it’s them.

You have been thinking, acting, and living like you have to be responsible for your life, family and future.  They think the government is here to protect them up until recently.  Now they want to defund the police.  They don’t know that gun control is racist.  You know our history.  You know that along with a firearm you need ammunition and training.  They are now surprised that they have to wait 3, 7 or ten days to pick up a pistol they purchased because of a state regulation they agreed to years ago.  You don’t give a rats ass about the color of a person skin.  You are so comfortable you used to make jokes about it with friends.  They are shocked you have a relationships with people of color.  They are shocked you supported a podcast called Black Man With A Gun for years, that they never heard of.  

If the recent burning, looting, and destruction of cities surprises you, don’t let it.  This is the reaction of people seeking to be heard.  This is what happens when people wake up.  This is what happens when we grieve the loss of life, freedom and the way things used to be.  All of us are in some stage of that grief.  This is how sausage is made.

Nobody new to food processing likes watching how sausage is being made.  It is ugly. Everyone watching the turmoil, strife and upheaval of protesters and looters doesn’t understand that these are byproducts of freedom. It is ugly.  It is revolution.  These are pleas for help and attention to social problems mixed with criminal activity. It is change.

 

To quote my cousin.

Black people haven’t had one decade to heal. We come out of slavery to lynchings , to Jim Crow , segregation, desegregation, civil rights denied, too war on drugs all the way up till now being killed by cops ( no healing period) 

 

What makes us different is not only our age, but our core values.   Those that  once served  in uniform and took an oath to defend the Constitution of the United States and to serve as an example to American society which did not transfer to the folks you see on RAGE TV.  Yes, the media is doing what it does.  It is showing you what you want to see to scare you.  We like to be scared.  Some of us, are writing articles about the Race War, and how we won’t kneel.  None of which is helping anyone else.  

We have been here before.  I didn’t think this would happen in my lifetime but but humanity is not as cogent, progressive or intelligent as it wants to claim.  Collectively we are still little kids in the playground picking sides by color, size and familiarity.  

You still with me?

I am bringing back the Black Man With A Gun Show Podcast and incorporating more common sense, more positive conversations, monologues and history.  I may even try to do a short mini series on video now that I am over my fear of the camera.  You’ll see the new stuff on my Youtube channel. 

I ended the show last December thinking it had ran its course.  I was wrong.  I did need a break though.

The podcast rocked and rolled for twelve years as the world accepted podcasting.  I did and lasted longer than most on what I had.  The people that liked me, really did.  The ones that listened to me try all sorts of things.  They watched me grow.  I thought I was done after watching a boat load of younger enthusiast take to instagram and YouTube.  They seemingly got sponsors, and all sorts of stuff I thought was not available.  I wasn’t black enough to some.  I had the “racist” John Wayne on my show leading the pledge of Allegiance.  I was probably a Republican.  I was an odd duck.  I had worked for all the socially unacceptable agencies, the police, the CIA, the NRA, the Law Enforcement Alliance of America, I was a black preacher (which is also a negative sometimes), I saluted the flag.  I got along with bikers, the NASCAR crowd, country musicians. I was dangerously close to being an Uncle Tom.  

With the exceptions that those closest vouched that I was the radical, the street smart, the militant, the “woke” guy in all those unacceptable agencies.  That I scared my peers back then, though they understand me now.  I was purposely put into diversity and Glass ceiling studies.  I was always put into working groups because of my stance on human rights, equality and justice.  When I became an entrepreneur in the gun industry, I was alone.  I became jealous of the clowns that were celebrated, paid and shared on social media.  I figured if that is what “the people” want then good on them.  That was then.

Which brings me finally to what is going on.  People are grieving and trying to work through it.  We are in the midst of trying to stay safe from viruses and angry people.  Mobs, riots and zealots are out here.  The ignorant, misinformed and conmen are using social media to their benefit.  I thought I’d come back and give my biased views on a few things under the guise of a Black Man With A Gun.  I started this off by asking friends to submit articles to the blog and and handful did.  They share their hearts.  And that is what will save our Republic.  Going to need financial help to get this puppy moving.  If you can, please contribute to the patreon.com/blackmanwithagun  or buy me a coffee links. 

None of us, is as strong as all of us.

I will be incorporating the Game Changers podcast into this as well.  Celebrating and acknowledging men doing the right thing in our community. And I may get around to talking about guns too. 

I’m back.  

 

Here is a conversation I had with the Concealed Taco Dudes Podcast.

Black Man With A Gun Show returning in July 2020.

 

-Kenn

Check out these podcast:  Black Man With A Gun Show ,  Speak Life church , and  Indian Motorcycle radio  The Books, Kenn has written.
Not Accepting Guest Post

Not Accepting Guest Post

If you haven’t posted on this site before and claim to be the marketing manager, writer, blogger or SEO consultant in charge of finding websites that have been around awhile and can give you great link juice, I am not interested. I am also not interested in sponsoring links from existing post. I am not interested in your offers to pay me nor links to casinos, gambling sites, porn, dating or anti-freedom organizations.

This url has been around since 1999. It has had its ups and downs. I lost most of the content a few years ago when I was unsure if I was going to keep it. I’ve lost many URLs like that. Domains that are being held hostage by foreign brand squatters.

I will accept guest post from my friends, known members of the Second Amendment community, and folks that have interacted with me on the podcast or this blog. Even if you are pro-2A and I don’t know you, NO.

If I were to publish your post the main focus of the article should be to inform or inspire my audience. I maintain the right to lightly edit your article (mostly for spelling, grammar, and formatting) and to choose a post title that I feel best fits my blog and audience. And I maintain the right to reject submissions or to request that you revise & resubmit to better tailor the article to my audience.

To all the rest,

Get Off My Lawn.

If you receive a link to this post, then I am not interested.

Check out these podcast:  Black Man With A Gun Show ,  Speak Life church , and  Indian Motorcycle radio  The Books, Kenn has written.
Is She The One?

Is She The One?

Probably not.  I say that up front because we don’t make the best decisions on relationships early.  You need experience to be a good judge of what a good relationship is or is not.  You must be mature enough to know what you want.  You have to unfortunately, guess more often than not.  Her having a “big butt and a smile” is not enough.  A good wife is a partner for life.  A good partner is a friend. A friend with benefits that you want to marry don’t make you not want to come home or duck them for peace of mind. A friend with benefits that you want to marry does not give you static.
A friend that you want to marry is not a security risk.  She is not likely to land you in jail.  She is not likely to surprise you with a baby.  She is not going to get you into a fight.
A friend you want to marry likes the same stuff you do.  Or if she doesn’t wants to learn. 
Opposites don’t really attract.  There is something about you two that you like.  It could be as simple as you both work at the same place.  You both drive on the same road.  You both shared a glance in a crowded elevator.  You shared a weekend of great sex.  But everything else is whack.  Don’t do bad math either.  Don’t settle for some good and some bad.  What people show you early in your relationship will still be around five years later or be worse. 
I am sharing this with you as someone who has survived almost everything you can go through as a boyfriend, fiancé and husband.
Marriage is good when you can share your life with someone with the same goals, dreams and values as you. Living together can expose some of the things we would normally hide from each other but even then it can cause more problems than you need.  People have problems. None of us is wrapped in perfect boxes.  Unfortunately, when we rush relationships, rush growth, we suffer.  Everyone grows differently.  Education and age are not great factors in telling maturity.  I have seen and heard men with PhD’s deliver love letters to love interest that bordered on juvenile.  In the relationship game, they were in elementary school even though they could quote theorems on quantum physics.  It is even tougher today for those that have embraced social media and don’t have good conversation skills. 
It is not enough to say that a person you love, knows me.  A good marriage thrives on the open exchange of emotion, desires, and beliefs. Communication is one of the most important aspects life. When you can communicate, you can do almost anything. Through communication, you’d learn if your partner was honest, respectful, positive and open.  Through good channels they would indeed know where you were coming from even if you weren’t on the same level.  If she is the one, then the both of you would be able to put up with, deal, handle, and tackle anything the world threw at you, together. And it will.
You don’t want to fight at work, and at home.  If you do, she ain’t the one.

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Do You Remember Your First Time?

Do You Remember Your First Time?

 

I remember mine. I just turned 21. I woke up that day giddy and excited. I walked nervously, eagerly to my future love and after weeks of scoping and eying my beauty down I knew I found the one. She was petite. She was older than me but with age comes wisdom. She didn’t show any signs of aging. I approached her and spent minutes investing my time in getting my first impressions of her. I knew we were a match.

She is a the Smith & Wesson® Model 442 Airweight® revolver.

The streamline, lightweight, no-snag design of the Smith & Wesson® Model 442 Airweight® makes it an ideal concealed carry double-action revolver. The internal hammer of the 442 eliminates the risk of the hammer getting snagged on clothing, holsters, or purses when drawing the weapon in a self-defense situation. The low profile, ramp front sight and the fixed notch rear sight also aid in snag-free presentation of the weapon. The 442 is double-action only, making it an extremely fast personal-defensive handgun to deploy in stressful situations, as there is nothing to remember to do except point and pull the trigger. The lockwork of the 442 is completely enclosed to keep dirt and pocket lint from interfering with the gun’s action. The synthetic grips and inherently ergonomic design afford natural pointability. The Model 442 is built on Smith & Wesson’s famous J-Frame, it has a 5-shot cylinder rated for +P .38 Special ammunition. The barrel and cylinder are constructed from carbon steel, and the mainframe is made of lightweight aluminum alloy. All the exterior metal parts are finished with a matte black coating that resists corrosion caused by humidity and perspiration when the revolver is carried close to the body. The Smith & Wesson 442 Airweight Double-Action Revolver carries easily, deploys rapidly, and has enough firepower to handle any self-defense scenario. Made in USA.
• No-snag, concealed carry design
• Internal hammer, double-action only
• Carbon steel barrel and cylinder
• Aluminum alloy frame
• Matte black finish
• Ramp front sight and fixed rear sight
• Black synthetic grips
5-shot, +P rated

Welcome. My name is Ray Alan Price and I want to invite all new and existing gun owners to this blog where I will provide helpful tips and safe handling advice for first time gun owners. I will also share my experiences in gun ownership. I have been safely shooting recreationally for over a decade. I have been on my high school’s rifle team where I learned the basics and fundamentals of shooting.

My father was a Desert Storm veteran and a military policeman. He taught me everything from taking apart firearms to the most important aspect of all —- safe gun handling. I have shot and carried a variety of handguns, makes and models. I am still a student as there are many things I still want to learn but I have a healthy insight for many first time owners and carriers because it wasn’t too long ago I was in your shoes. There are many different handguns on the market and for a novice it can be challenging and intimidating. What caliber to chose? Where to buy? What holster is best?

I not only have firearm’s knowledge but I have a Bachelor’s degree in political science, a Master’s degree in fraud and forensics, and I have been writing professionally.

I currently, am employed as a fraud investigator for a company in the city. My goal is to provide readers with knowledge and guidance.

There are plenty of fish in the sea but I will guide you on how to reel in your first catch.

 

Please welcome our newest contributor to the Black Man With A Gun Blog. A few weeks ago I asked on the podcast for help making this blog more than just my observations. Mr. Price joins to share his journey as a new gun owner.

 

 

Check out these podcast:  Black Man With A Gun Show ,  Speak Life church , and  Indian Motorcycle radio  The Books, Kenn has written.

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